I’ve never talked to anyone. I’m used to handling things on my own. Why should I go to therapy?
There’s a common belief that we should handle things on our own and put on a brave face. Unfortunately, I find that this tends to lead to more problems than solutions, and can make existing depression and anxiety worse and make you feel more isolated.
I’m a big believer that it makes you stronger to 1) know when you need to help and 2) to reach out and ask for it. And really… everyone needs help now and then, so why go it alone? In our work together, we can explore and identify your strengths and how to implement them to reduce the influence of the problems you are facing.
What’s the difference between talking to you or my best friend or family?
Well, for one, not everyone has a trusted friend or family member they can talk to. And if you do, it’s very likely that you may not feel comfortable sharing everything with them that you may share in therapy. My goal is for every client who walks into my office to feel safe and comfortable enough to share whatever it is that’s bothering them. There’s almost nothing that’s off-limits when you’re in my office. You don’t have to worry about whether you’ll feel embarrassed, judged, or whether you’ll shock me. You won’t.
Because that’s what I do. Being a therapist means I have the training and experience to be able to listen to you and help you approach your situation in a new way– teach you new skills, gain different perspectives, listen to you without judgment or expectations, and help you listen to yourself. Furthermore, counseling is confidential. You won’t have to worry about others “knowing your business.”
What do you think about medication?
This is a very personal choice, and not one that I can make for you. Medication can be effective in treating certain issues. Research has shown that it is most effective when combined with ongoing therapy. Our work together is designed to explore and unpack the problems you are experiencing and expand on your strengths that can help you accomplish your personal goals. Sometimes medication can give you an added boost to help you do this and to help take the edge off just enough to continue managing your day-to-day. While I can’t tell you whether you should or shouldn’t consider medication, I am more than happy to discuss options with you and provide appropriate referrals to physicians who may be able to assist further.
How does therapy work? What do I have to do in sessions?
The short answer? Be willing to invest in yourself. That means showing up and talking honestly about what’s going on. Getting down and dirty with figuring out why the current issues you’re struggling with are happening. Learning new tools to help you manage, and being able to address the root of the problem head on, so that when you’re ready to leave therapy, you’re in a different place than when you began.
Sounds fun, right? Don’t worry… if it sounds intimidating, that’s because it can be at first. The good thing is that you don’t have to do all of this by yourself. I’ll be there with you as we sort through everything, and we don’t have to dive into the deep end on the first day. Getting there takes time and trust, so we will build up to that. Most people feel much better and comfortable by the end of their first session, and many look forward to their follow up appointments.
How long will it take?
Unfortunately, this is not possible to say in a general FAQs page. Everyone’s circumstances are unique to them and the length of time counseling can take to allow you to accomplish your goals depends on your desire for personal development, your commitment, and the factors that are driving you to seek counseling in the first place.
I want to get the most out of therapy. What can I do to help?
I am so glad you are dedicated to getting the most out of your sessions. Your active participation and dedication will be crucial to your success.